Q. Hi Beth - I'm 21 years old, a student, and mother of a 1-year-old soon to be 2. I am pregnant at this moment but I am so confused. I'm not ready for another child. When I first became pregnant I had hateful feelings and it just drove me to not want this child. I had feelings to even suicide or why am I on this earth. I am considering adoption. Do you think that would be a right decision, and will I be a hypocrit to wanting to give my child up, even having a lil' boy already?

A. Dear Crystal - Making an adoption plan for your child is one of the hardest things a mother can ever do, but also one of the most loving and generous. It is also only one of your options, one you can take time to think about and explore with the help of someone who's been there. I recommend you call OptionLine at 1-800-395-4357(HELP) or visit www.optionline.org (IM available). They'll put you in touch with your local pregnancy help center and an experienced consultant to discuss your situation. Your consultant may have faced this situation herself, and so will know just how you're feeling and the struggles you're experiencing. She can help you explore all the resources available to you in your own neighborhood, and help you sort through your feelings and make the decision that's best for you and your baby. The number is free, 24/7, and confidential - they're ready to listen and help - give them a call! And email me again anytime, with any other questions you may have - I'm here for you, too! Beth

Q. I have a best friend and she is 16. She doesn't know what to do 'cause her and her boyfriend used unprotected sex several times! She took 5 pregnancy tests and they all came out positive!! She's doesn't know what to do 'cause her parents don't like the guy and she's not supposed to even be seeing him. I was wondering if you any suggestions. Please email me back!!!!!

A. Dear Kayla - I commend you for being a good friend - your friend will need all the support you can give her through this situation. I recommend you encourage her to call OptionLine at 1-800-395-4357(HELP) or to visit www.optionline.org (IM available). They'll put her in touch with her local pregnancy help center and an experienced consultant to discuss her situation. Her consultant can help her talk with her parents, even be there with her when she tells them, as well as tell her about all the resources available to her right in her own neighborhood. The call is free, 24/7 and confidential, and they're ready to listen and help.You can also tell her she can email me, if she wants to, anytime, with any other questions or concerns - I'm here for her, too! Beth

Q. I'm almost done with school. I graduate from college in July. If I'm pregnant is it possible I can still finish? I'm married and stay home, I just worry!! My husband has a good job; however, I feel bad. I also don't want to upset my paretnts because they are happy because they are helping me pay to complete. They really want me to finish as do I. I don't want to disappoint!Thanks. Laura

A. Dear Laura - There are always ways to work through situations like yours, and the great news is, you don't have to do it alone! There are good folk ready to help you with anything you need to help you have the best experience possible. I recommend you call OptionLine at 1-800-395-4357(HELP) or visit www.optionline.org (IM available). They'll put you in touch with your local pregnancy help center and an experienced consultant to discuss your situation. Your consultant can advise you about continuing your schooling as well as give you a free and confidential pregnancy test, if you're not yet certain you're pregnant. The call is free, confidential and 24/7, and they're ready to listen and help - give them a call! Beth

Q. Hi, Beth. I am 16 years old and me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months and I just find out I was pregnant and I am not sure what to tell me my bc I need to get to the d.r. and I am not sure if I should give it up or keep it. What should I do? Please help me. Everynight I think about this. I just sit in my room and cry. Please HELP ME!

A. Dear Amanda - The first thing I want you to know is you're not alone in this. You don't have to go through this by yourself. I'm here for you, and so are a lot of other people, and they're ready to help. I recommend you call OptionLine at 1-800-395-4357(HELP) or visit www.optionline.org (IM available). They'll put you in touch with your local pregnancy help center and an experienced, caring consultant to discuss your situation. Your consultant will listen to all your concerns, even be with you when you tell your boyfriend (parents, too!), if you want her to. She might even have been where you are, and so will know exactly what you're going through right now. She can tell you about all the help available and right in your own neighborhood - help with a doctor, continuing your schooling - whatever you need. She'll also help you explore making an adoption plan for your baby, if that's what you want to learn about, as well as keeping and parenting your little one. The number is free, 24/7, and they're ready to listen and help - give them a call! And email me anytime, if there's anything else you need, or just to talk - remember, I'm here for you, too! Beth

Q. Hi, Beth. Well I'm 17 yrs old and I have a q? I somke pot once in a while but I really plan to have kids in the future. But I wanna know if by me smoking pot now, can that affect my babies in the future!!! Thank you.

A. Dear Kahili - Marijuana can affect your health right now, and your baby's health, both physical and mental, if you smoke while you're pregnant. Studies have shown that smoking marijuana during the three months before you become pregnant, as well as while you're pregnant, can increase the risk of your baby developing AML (acute myelogenous leukemia). Check out the following link about marijuana and its risks at http://www.nida.nih.gov/ResearchReports/Marijuana/Marijuana4.html#pregnancy. Beth

Q. Okay!! It's been 19 days since I had unprotected sex. I feel sick. My breasts got bigger.

A. Dear Jackie - These are some symptoms of pregnancy; however, the most accurate way to determine if you're pregnant is to wait at least 7 days past your period's due date, then do a home pregnancy test and confirm your results with your doctor. Beth