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                                                               Frequently Asked Questions
Q. How can I be sure I’m really pregnant?
A. IF YOUR PERIOD IS AT LEAST 7 DAYS PAST DUE, YOU CAN DO A HOME PREGNANCY TEST, THEN CONFIRM YOUR TEST RESULTS WITH YOUR DOCTOR.

Q. Is it possible to become pregnant while using a condom?
A. YES, BECAUSE CONDOMS CAN BREAK DURING INTERCOURSE, OR MAY HAVE UNDETECTABLE HOLES THAT CAN LET SPERM THROUGH.

Q. Is it possible to become pregnant without full penetration?
A. YES. IF SPERM COME INTO CONTACT WITH VAGINAL MUCUS, THEY CAN SWIM THROUGH THIS MUCUS INTO THE VAGINA, THROUGH THE UTERUS AND UP INTO THE FALLOPIAN TUBE, WHICH CAN RESULT IN PREGNANCY.

Q. Can having had an abortion keep me from getting pregnant again?
A. YES. AN ABORTION, EVEN IF IT’S A SO-CALLED “SAFE” AND LEGAL ONE, CAN DO DAMAGE TO YOUR UTERUS AND FALLOPIAN TUBES, CAUSING SCARRING THAT CAN PREVENT PREGNANCY. ABORTION CAN ALSO CAUSE YOU TO MISCARRY YOUR NEXT PREGNANCY, OR MAKE YOU PERMANENTLY STERILE SO THAT YOU CAN NEVER AGAIN BECOME PREGNANT.

Q. How can I find out the actual father of my baby?
A. AFTER YOUR BABY IS BORN, A DNA PATERNITY TEST CAN BE PERFORMED. IT INVOLVES COLLECTING CHEEK CELLS BY SWABBING SOME SALIVA FROM THE BABY’S MOUTH AS WELL AS THE MOUTHS OF THE PROSPECTIVE FATHERS, THEN COMPARING THEM TO FIND A DNA MATCH.

Q. My parents said they’d kick me out if I ever got pregnant. What can I do?
A. MANY PARENTS MAY SAY THINGS THEY DON’T REALLY MEAN ABOUT AN UNEXPECTED PREGNANCY SITUATION. HOWEVER, AFTER THE INITIAL SHOCK, THE VAST MAJORITY OF PARENTS ARE VERY SUPPORTIVE OF THEIR CHILD AND WANT TO HELP THEM WITH ANYTHING THEY NEED. IF YOU NEED HELP TELLING YOUR PARENTS YOU’RE PREGNANT, CALL OPTIONLINE AT 1-800-395-4357(HELP) OR VISIT www.optionline.org. THEY’LL PUT YOU IN TOUCH WITH YOUR LOCAL PREGNANCY HELP CENTER AND AN EXPERIENCED CONSULTANT TO DISCUSS YOUR SITUATION. YOUR CONSULTANT CAN ACTUALLY BE WITH YOU WHEN YOU BREAK THE NEWS, AND SHARE WITH YOU AND YOUR PARENTS ALL THE RESOURCES AVAILABLE DURING YOUR PREGNANCY AND AFTER YOUR BABY IS BORN. THE NUMBER IS FREE, CONFIDENTIAL AND 24/7 – GIVE THEM A CALL!

Q. I’m in college and just found out I’m pregnant. I don’t want to drop out, but I don’t want to have an abortion, either. Can you help me?
A. GOOD NEWS - YOU DON’T HAVE TO DO EITHER ONE!! THERE ARE REAL, PRACTICAL OPTIONS AVAILABLE SO YOU CAN HAVE YOUR BABY AND CONTINUE YOUR EDUCATION! CALL OPTIONLINE AT 1-800-395-4357(HELP) OR VISIT www.optionline.org. THEY’LL PUT YOU IN TOUCH WITH YOUR LOCAL PREGNANCY HELP CENTER AND AN EXPERIENCED CONSULTANT WHO CAN TELL YOU ABOUT ALL RESOURCES AVAILABLE TO YOU DURING PREGNANCY AND AFTER YOUR BABY’S BORN. THE NUMBER IS FREE, CONFIDENTIAL AND 24/7 – CONTACT THEM NOW!

Q. I had an abortion, and now I’m in such pain, regretting my decision. I just don’t think anybody will ever love me again, and I can’t stand myself, knowing what I did. I cry whenever I see a baby, and I’m afraid to trust myself around them. Can you help me?
A. YES, AND I KNOW HOW MUCH COURAGE IT TOOK FOR YOU TO SEEK THE HELP YOU NEED AND DESERVE. YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE ALONE WITH THIS PAIN ANY LONGER. YOU ARE DESCRIBING SOME OF THE FEELINGS COMMONLY EXPERIENCED BY OTHERS GOING THROUGH POST-ABORTION SYNDROME (PAS). PLEASE KNOW THAT HEALING AND FORGIVENESS ARE POSSIBLE, AND THAT THERE ARE OTHERS WHO HAVE BEEN WHERE YOU ARE NOW, WHO ARE READY TO HELP. PLEASE CALL OPTIONLINE AT 1-800-395-4357(HELP) OR VISIT www.optionline.org (Instant Messaging available). THEY’LL PUT YOU IN TOUCH WITH YOUR NEAREST POST-ABORTION COUNSELOR, WHO UNDERSTANDS YOUR PAIN FIRSTHAND AND CAN HELP YOU BEGIN YOUR HEALING PROCESS. CALL OPTIONLINE NOW!


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