Your
girlfriend is pregnant, now what? This
was not your plan. Now you are not sure what to do. Emotions
can be high for both you and your girlfriend. Take time to examine
your thoughts and feelings... Explore all of your options and
do not rush to make a decision.
I
feel trapped! Do I have options? Don’t
be pressured into making a quick decision. It is not unusual
to feel trapped, want to keep the pregnancy a secret or want
it to disappear. Just remember, along with the responsibility
you have options! There are positive options surrounding
unplanned pregnancies and with a little help you and your girlfriend
make a decision that is healthy for her, your unborn child and
your relationship. “Pregnancy
Options?” provides information about some of your
choices.
What
are my responsibilities as a father?
Your role in this relationship can be hard to understand. Learn
to balance your new roles on www.capsonline.org/guys_responsibility.htm.
Assisting,
protecting and supporting your girlfriend are very important
at this time. Listening to your girlfriend and discussing your
thoughts and feelings will give both of you strength. Because
she’s pregnant (and all the hormones involved) her emotions
might change rapidly. Remember this doesn’t last
forever. If you are concerned about financially supporting
another person, know that you are a capable person who can find
financial help. This
site, may give you a positive look at where to find the
support you need.
Prepare
to be a parent. -
The role of
“father” is extremely important in a child’s
life. Whether single or married, custodial or non-custodial,
a father’s influence is very significant. The joy of
fatherhood can increase your confidence and help you cope
with the changes
in your life. Look at www.fathersworld.com
to see what dads are doing today.
Can relationships
survive after abortion? In
this article Dr. Theresa Karmininski Burk sites “the
evidence shows that abortion to ‘save a relationship’
almost never works. Most relationships between unmarried couples
come apart shortly after an abortion.“
